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Joy To The Girl

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From time to time, a book falls at your feet and when picked up from the floor of Barnes & Noble, it quite literally drags you to the cash register…sometimes kicking and screaming.    I have often resisted this oh.so. powerful urge (mainly because I am cheap…I confess).  I beg of you…if you are inclined to resist these messages from God (or Source, Buddha, Universe, the freaking Beatles…whoever)…STOP immediately!!  Buy the book!

This “situation” which I will describe in more literal detail in my PS, happened to me last week at Barnes & Noble (or in Lori world…nirvana).  And…on a very tight budget, I heard a little voice in my head say, “Sold!”.  The book and “Barnes and Noble-men” were nice enough to offer an amazing sales price of $12.95.  I love a bargain!!

So…

I know what you are thinking…

What is the book….?

Well, wait for it….close your eyes and hear the melody of your favorite song….and…

It is called “A Course In Miracles”.  It is not credited to any author.  The copyright is listed as :

“Compilation (insert that little copyright do-hickey which I don’t know how to type)2005 by New Christian church of Full Endeavor, Ltd.

I am currently on page 126, but I couldn’t hold out on you guys…I had to share.  Every non-fiction book I read changes me, it’s true…but, this book is simply revelatory!  Sorry to be so “ethereal” and all; but, I really mean it..DAMMIT!!  As you can see, it didn’t change my trademark irreverence.

So, I am about to shut this down for today, but, I want to talk about this book more.  I am going to blog about it for the foreseeable (thanks SpellCheck…didn’t know it had the ‘e’ behind the ‘r’) future; because:

  1. I can (and you can’t stop me)
  2. It’s freaking awesome….I mean it!!
  3. Because I love YOU and you will only benefit from this beautiful text
  4. The “Holy Spirit” made me do it…

K?  So, sorry I have been away for so long.  I wrote a book called “Building Better Believers: The How-To Parenting Guide To Raising Entrepreneurs, Innovators, and Visionaries”.  I obsessed over it…to put it mildly.  I completely detest multitasking; because God granted me with a one-track mind and I finally stopped fighting it.  Enough said?

Don’t misinterpret my absence for lack of love, laughter or words (not that you would..haha)…just a temporary shift in focus of which there will be more to come in the future.  Thanks for reading…tell a friend and leave a comment, will you?

Much Love and Laughter,

Lori

(PS)  I heard about the book from another book called “Spirit Junkie” by Gabrielle Bernstein (which I highly recommend).  Also, Marianne Williamson is a Course in Miracles interpreter.  I just love the visual image of the book dragging me better…don’t you?

(PPS)  If you want to buy MY book, which will also change your life…you can do it right here.  Also, close2bliss will be moving soon to my new website which is under construction (believersvillage.com).  I’ll be sure to send you the details when the move occurs..until then…See ya!!!!

Instructional Note: To get maximum enjoyment from these posts…Read…Click Video Link…Sing Along…Dance Around the Room with Reckless Abandon…just saying…

 

Mother’s Day

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I mentioned on my last post that I was going to discuss my Mother’s Day Gift given to me by my beautiful Laney.  Well, first off, she created the most exquisite “bouquet of flowers” that consisted of a cut out of her hand print folded beautifully with a little yellow tissue paper in the center to look like a Calla Lilly.  I guess that’s what it was supposed to look like…my knowledge of flowers isn’t the best.  Anyway, three beautiful white flowers were mounted on popsicle sticks and place in a little terra cotta pot that she decorated with her own two hands.  The greatest thing about the plant is that I can’t kill it!  That is a miracle in and of itself.  Unfortunately, I wasn’t blessed with a green thumb or the desire to cultivate one.

I pledge to you, Laney, that I will cherish this potted plant always.  I will display it proudly in our home and I WILL NOT allow it get ruined under a pile of junk or shove it somewhere in a house cleaning rant.  It will be cherished always…until the flowers dry rot, of course.  Who knows, perhaps I’ll get the chance to embarrass you with it on your first date night.  Don’t get me wrong, it is nothing to be embarrassed about….unless you are a teenager, of course.

Part two of the gift was a questionnaire called “The Mother’s Day Fact Sheet”.  This is an edited version…check it out!

My mother’s name is Lori

She is 60 years old  (I’m actually 43 :()

She weighs 3 pounds. (I’ll tell you my diet tips later…)

I’d like to live with my mom for the rest of the days more years. (I’ll enjoy that while it lasts…)

My mother’s favorite T.V. show is American Idol (She knows me pretty well!)

I can tell when my mom is mad when she puts me in bed (Only occasionally true)

My mother deserves an award for hugs (That one brought a tear to my eye.)

Now, I am not so grateful about my daughter adding 17 years to my life.  Conversely, I am ever so happy that she reduced my weight by oh 100 pounds, give or take ;).  I also know that the day is coming when she will be eager to leave the nest.  I remember how sad my Mother was when I left the nest to go away to college; but, I returned for a while as many of us do.  And, I have made a resolution with myself that I will not whittle away the time worrying about the day when she flies away.  I will spend my time preparing her and strengthening her little wings.  Sure, I will be sad to see her go; but the other side of me will be so proud to watch her soar.  Interestingly enough, I know that our relationship will evolve into that beautiful friendship that I now have with my own mother.

What do you do with your children to prepare them for flight?  I would love to hear about it!!  Who knows, I might just write a book about it….

Much Love!!

Lori

PS:  A little science for you to think about…from the ages of 2-6, your child’s mind operates in a theta wave state.  This means that everything they observe goes into their subconscious mind.  The conscious mind actually isn’t even working at this point, everything bypasses straight into the subconscious.  They are highly creative and imaginative and can believe in magic and miracles during this stage.  Furthermore, the words and actions that they hear and see from all of us who have a hand in their upbringing go into the file cabinet of their psyche.  Make sure you are adding ‘files’ that will serve them well and help them reach great heights.  In other words, don’t fill their subconscious minds with nonsense that will lead to debilitating fears and erroneous beliefs .  I’ll tell you what I do.  I CONSCIOUSLY think about what I am going to say to Laney even if I am feeling impatient or angry.  I then structure my words and actions in such a way that the file I place in her cabinet is beneficial to her in the long run.  Think of it this way, do you want your child to lead a healthy and long life?  Based on research, their emotional state has a great effect on their physical health.  And, their emotional state will be a direct indication of the beliefs that are held in their subconscious minds.

PPS:  Oh, and if you are thinking that it is a lot of effort to control your words and actions…it isn’t.  When you practice it, it becomes second nature to you.  And, even if it is a great effort…isn’t is worth it?

Oh, and Laney when I receive my award for hugs, I’ll do it  With Arms Wide Open!!

Idol Top 5

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(Warning:  I wrote this over the course of three days…don’t ask.  Hope you enjoy the disjointed stream of Lori Mind Mode consciousness…)

I was going to recap the previous week of Idol since I unfortunately missed my post; but, who cares?  Casey got voted off and that really sucks.  C’est la vie…there can only be one winner, right?  So, I’ll spare you the details and move right along to this week.

Holy shit!!  I cannot believe what I just heard.  Durby (i.e. James Durbin) won the goosebump award.  When he sang, “Without You” while tears welled up in his eyes and spilled over in the end, I melted.  And as tone deaf as I am, I actually did hear the imperfections in the performance, but it didn’t matter.  That 30 Seconds To Mars song he sang was none too shabby, either.  Don’t tell Jared Leto (bandmember), but I liked Durby’s version better.  I also have to whisper this one…I think he actually might win (Shhh!).  Beyond excited!!

Conversely, I am in total disagreement with the judges take on the first song Haley performed last night.  It was an unreleased Lady Gaga song and I get their point; but, I loved it!!  And, then her performance of “House of the Rising Sun” (frankly, not one of my favorite songs) was amazing!!  She absolutely has to record that for her first album or iPod download.  J Lo was right when she said that song was never performed so well.  That, my friends, is why I give Haley top honors for last night!!  She took a risk and she rocked it out!!  I totally love her voice.  I wish I could growl like that…….ROAR!!!     You know, I have to give her the original naturability award too.  Regardless of your opinion about her voice, you have to admit…she is unique!

Two things I must mention about my utter delight over this week’s episode:

  • Each contestant sang 2 songs
  • SHERYL CROW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Next…I am going to toot my own horn by announcing that my prediction for this week was absolutely correct.  I told myself on Wednesday night that Jacob would be out and I was right!  I really did!  I know how convenient that may sound since I know the results while writing this; but I did call it!  So, now that I am feeling a bit cocky about my ability to foresee the future I am going to predict that the final two will be Durby  (of course), and wait for it…………..Haley.  We’ll see if I go two for two.

Now, Scotty and Lauren, if you are reading this as I am certain you probably are….no offense.  I think you both are perfectly wonderful.  You both sang two of my favorite ballads of all time…”Unchained Melody” and “You Were Always On My Mind”.  By the way, Scotty, I think I would have called it Willie’s version and not Elvis’…just saying!  Anyway, I am sticking to my guns:  James and Haley in the final two.

Now, let’s talk about Sheryl Crow for a minute.  I personally think she is one of the coolest performers of our time.  She started out as a music teacher .  She sang in a band at night and finally one day she just decided to throw caution to the wind and go for it.  One of her first gigs was none other than a McDonald’s jingle that she reportedly made $40,000 to sing.  At the time, that probably represented twice her annual salary as a teacher.

She then landed a job touring with Michael Jackson.  She has performed and written music for a very esteemed list of rock and roll legends that includes The Eagles, Mick Jagger, Eric Clapton, Kid Rock, Tina Turner, Stevie Wonder, & Stevie Nicks to name a few.

When she finally got a record deal, her first album (self titled) was scrapped by the record company.  She has endured controversy, publishing right disputes, a lifelong battle with depression, public break ups, breast cancer and is now a single mother to two toddler boys.  Talk about resilient!!   I have never seen her in concert; but, it is on my bucket list!!

Anyway, I simply have to put this one to bed, guys.   Three days is long enough, don’t you think?  I probably only worked on it for a grand total of 40 minutes if you add it all up; but it feels like an eternity.

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  Stay tuned for my Mother’s Day Post…

PPS  What is your favorite Sheryl Crow song?  Mine is  “My Favorite Mistake” with Eric Clapton on guitar

Hello Stranger!!

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Well, I am a little heartbroken today.  I just realized Casey got voted off last week from American Idol and I miss him already.  I know you are probably thinking that I have been under a rock or caught in some weird time warp and I suppose that is not far from the truth.  I simply had to choose some higher priority matters last week and I did not get my AI post done.  I am so sorry; but, I simply won’t burden you with any further excuses on the matter.  Let’s just say that I am a recovered “Excuse-a-holic”.   And, to be perfectly honest, I haven’t gone back to watch the full episode….but I will; and I will share the results combined with tonight’s results tomorrow.  Thanks for understanding.

Lately, I have been hearing and reading a lot about the struggle that people are having making the law of attraction work for them…to their benefit.  More and more fascinating scientific evidence is being shared every day to help people believe; but, I think people DO believe.  I just think they are having a hard time relating to the people that they watch, read or listen to.

You see, when I watch the experts talk in webinars, etc., they seem so….there.  Does that make sense?  I actually heard someone ask Bob Proctor if he ever has a bad day and he responded by saying that at this stage of the game he only has bad moments.  When the bad emotions rear their ugly heads, he is very proficient at shifting so they don’t last long.  Once upon a time in his life, he admits to having bad days, weeks, even months.  Through conscious effort, actions, results, and many years of practice, he has achieved mastery over his own mind and most importantly, his emotions.

For me, it feels a little like treading water.  I know that the effort to swim will get me to the shore.  I am fully aware that I can’t tread water forever or I will exhaust myself and drown.  And, I also know that once I reach the shore, when I stand on solid ground, it will feel effortless.  So, my advice to myself and those of you in this same “boat” is to move in the direction of the shoreline.   Oh, and when (or if) you stop along the way and become tempted to tread again, don’t.   Swimmmm…Forrest….swimmm!!!   (In case you don’t get it;I took that from the movie Forrest Gump, speaking of being under a rock ;))

You see all the coaches and mentors in the achievement business say it is perfectly normal and necessary to feel the resistance.   You just have to isolate the source of it, deal with it, and sidestep it.  Furthermore, remain focused on the end goal…what your life will look like and the emotions associated with achieving that life.  Write the description of it on paper, read it over out loud twice a day or as often as you need to.  Meditate over the thought of having it right now!!  Then, as the creative urges hit you, act on them without hesitation.  Take it from me, the hesitation will take you too far off course.  The fear and the insecurity that arise are normal too.  Just ask yourself, if I take this action, what is the worst thing that can happen?  I assure you it will not kill you; and outside of that, what is there to fear?  In your mind you may think failure…but the difference in the successful people in this world and the people who have achieved mediocre results is THE SUCCESSFUL PEOPLE HAVE FAILED MORE!!  And…they recover quickly; because, if success likes anything it is speed!!

Okay, time is up on this little self therapy session……See you later!!

Much Love!!

Lori

PS:  Do me a square….pause for a minute or two in silence today and focus your most positive energy in the direction of healing for everyone facing a life threatening disease or illness.  I feel strongly that if we do that regularly great things can happen!!

PPS:  I would love to hear how the law of attraction is working in your life; so, talk to me, please.  Oh, and raise your glass  to Navy SEAL Team Six for finally making a martyr out of Bin Laden!!

Sell-A-Brate the Sell-Outs!

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You know the law of attraction never fails!!  Today I jumped onto the computer and something told me to read this blog that I’ve become very interested in recently.  You can visit too and I highly recommend you do.  The address is http://www.thegoodgreatsby.com (don’t you love the name…I do!).  Paul Johnson, the author, is a great writer with a very sarcastic and ironic sense of humor which I adore.  Anyway, he recently posted a title called “I’ll Never Sell Out” and it inspired me to write this.

I can’t tell you how many times my husband and I have discussed the topic of selling out.  I mean we are perplexed at the whole concept.  People talk about it as if it is some dastardly act which deserves to be penalized.  Frankly I think that is such bullshit!  And as I often do I had to consult with my dear friend Google to get to the bottom of what this ridiculous and nebulous term really means.  Google, in turn, sent me to another person I have grown quite attached to named Wikipedia.  And now hold on to your knickers here; because Wiki actually has a definition for it as well as a whole page or so of examples.  I know what you are thinking…shut the front door, right?  I assure you I could not make this stuff up.  Besides, you can wiki it yourself to validate me if you want.  Anyway, here’s what the definition of selling out is:

“Selling out” refers to the perception that someone is compromising their integrity, morality, or principles in exchange for money or “success” (however defined).  It is commonly associated with attempts to tailor material to a mainstream audience.  Any artist who expands their creative path to encompass a wider audience, as opposed to continuing in the genre and venues of their initial success, may be disdainfully labeled by disapproving fans as a sellout.  Sometimes a sellout is seen as a person that is disloyal to one’s group that he or she belongs (usually ethnic group) in order to gain money or become “successful”.  Selling out is often seen as gaining success at the cost of credibility.”

Now, check out this first example.  Under the header of “politics” which you know to be one of my least favorite topics, the example given is ‘a sellout is a person or group pretending to adhere to a genuinely pro-working class ideology, only to follow these claims up with actions directly contradicting them, often supporting capitalism.’ Okay does anyone else see the glaring hypocrisy here?  Is it actually possible to support a working class sect without supporting capitalism?  I mean where are the working class heroes going to be working without any companies to WORK FOR!!  Are we all supposed to be employed by the government; or better yet, supported by the government?

Now, moving on to my favorite topic…Music!!    You see, I have a theory.  I highly suspect that in the music industry you have to compromise a little bit to get a record deal.  It’s kind of like when you take a job that really isn’t your dream job to get your foot in the door.  Then you bust your ass to do a good job and get noticed so that you can get the “dream job” you wanted in the first place.  Is that a sell out?  Nobody I know would perceive it that way.  So I guess the clincher is… that it is only perceived as a sellout if someone actually makes a lot of money doing it…AHA!   It really doesn’t have anything to do with morality or credibility or musical genre or whatever.  It’s that green eyed monster…envy!  People climb the ladder and when they reach the top there are those who simply want to take them down a notch.  But, if we turn it around and actually sell-a-brate (get it?) other people’s successes won’t we attract more success too.  Why yes we will.

Now, I have to say that I am so grateful for all the “sell-outs” out there.  They make me dance and sing.  They make me laugh and cry.  They give generously to help people that need the help.  They are not a strain on the government because they are self sufficient.  They are great contributors to our tax base which helps feed and educate people.  They are a glowing example of following your passion.  They continue to create amazing songs, art, new technology, and any number of modern conveniences.  They are dreamers and renegades.  They pioneer new paths that our children can travel down on their journey to abundance and bliss.  They are human and sometimes they do questionable things I am sure; but shouldn’t we focus on the tremendous benefit to society that they are?  I mean, I know I am a little “Pollyanna” here; but somebody has to be!!  Besides, the following list are some of the common denominators of people that are often classified as sell-outs:

  • Follow Their Passion
  • Extremely Successful
  • Creative and Innovative
  • Willing to Do Whatever It Takes (ie Paying Dues)
  • Philanthropic
  • Self-Sufficient
  • Inspirational
  • Adventurous
  • Live Exciting & Abundant Lives

So, that selling out thing…not so bad, huh?  I think I want in; how about you?

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  If you close your eyes and open your heart and mind you will see things so much more clearly!  LRH

PPS One ‘sell-out’ I love is an artist named Pink.  She was discovered by a guy name L.A. Reid who co-founded a record company called LaFace Records in Atlanta!!  L.A. is responsible for introducing us to some madly talented artists whom you may have heard of….Mariah Carey, Justin Bieber, Rihanna, Kanye West, Avril Lavigne, Toni Braxton, TLC, Usher, Ciara & OutKast.  When he started working with Pink (aka Alecia Moore) he pressured her to make a record that wasn’t exactly her forte.  It had a strong R&B vibe to it and she considered herself an edgy pop rock chick.   She did it anyway.  The album “Can’t Take Me Home” sold 5 million copies.  Then, being the self proclaimed pain in the ass that she is; she badgered L.A. to let her make the next album (Missundaztood) her way.  It went on to sell 15 million copies worldwide!!  She gave a little on the front end; and on the rear end she got…..freedom!!   And we got a whole bunch of killer tunes!!  Hope you like this one…….Pink \”Don\’t Let Me Get Me\”

The Story Of The Golden Buddha

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Over three hundred years ago, the Burmese army planned an attack to invade Thailand.  At the time, the country was known as Siam.  The Siamese monks were in possession of the most amazing Buddha statue.  The statue is over 10 feet tall and weighs in excess of 2 1/2 tons.  It is made of solid gold and is valued today at $200 MILLION dollars.  The monks were determined to protect the shrine that meant so much to them.  While it was priceless to them for reasons that transcend money; they knew that the Burmese would stop at nothing to steal the statue because of its tremendous monetary value.  They covered the Golden Buddha with 12 inches of clay  knowing that the warriors would totally ignore it and think it worthless.  Sadly, the monks were slaughtered in the invasion and the secret of the Golden Buddha stayed hidden for two centuries.  The Buddha itself though, remained safe.

In the mid 50’s, a monastery was to be relocated to make room for a new highway.  The monks arranged for a crane to come and move the “Clay” Buddha to its new location.  When the crane started to lift the statue, it was much heavier than expected and it began to crack.  Wanting to protect the priceless shrine, the monks lowered it back down and decided to wait until the next day to bring more powerful equipment.  To add insult to injury, the rains came so the monks lovingly covered the statue with tarps to keep the moisture away.  In the dark of night, the head monk took his flashlight and went out to make sure the Buddha was adequately covered.  When the light of the flashlight shone into the crack of the clay, he saw a glimmer…a reflection of something underneath that shroud of clay.  He immediately started to carefully chisel away shards of clay to find that the glimmer grew brighter.  Hours later, and all the clay removed…he was in the presence of a Buddha made of solid gold.  It now resides in The Temple of the Golden Buddha in Bangkok, Thailand.  Every year, millions of people go there to see this magnificent work of art and to worship at his feet.  And to think, it may never have been uncovered…

This story touched me in so many ways; but, I think it is such a representation of what we do to our children when raising them.  They come into this world as little miracles.  They are creative and true to themselves.  They believe in magic and dreams; and in an effort to protect them, we start layering on all these protective coatings.   We instill fear in them where there is none.  We instill doubt where there shouldn’t be because we don’t ever want them to be disappointed.  We share all these silly little superstitions about broken mirrors, black cats, walking under ladders, eating peas on New Years Day, etc…  We do it out of unconditional love and the desire to make their lives better.  But, in the long run these ideas that we instill in them turn into self imposed limitations in their subconscious minds.  They become part of their auto-pilot system that can steer them away from their true destiny.  They block them from achieving their full potential.   Furthermore, the removal of these limits from the subconscious mind is difficult.  Mostly, the recognition that they are even there can go unnoticed for years.  Think about it… the gold underneath that Buddha stayed hidden for centuries!!!!

I remember once when I was very young and I was playing jacks with my dear cousin, Ginger.  My grandmother walked into the room and said, “Please be careful to pick up all those jacks because if you step on one it will kill you!”  Now, she just meant that it would be painful;  but, my little mind went into a tailspin.  I was terrified to get up for fear that my life was in jeopardy!  I scoured that floor to make sure I had gotten up every single jack and when I put them away I never took them back out again.  My jack playing career was officially over!  It didn’t matter about the jacks.  I never really enjoyed playing with them that much anyway.  The point is we have to be mindful of what we say to our small children especially in the first 6 years of their lives.  Studies have shown that the belief system of children and primarily the subconscious mindset is developed  in these formative years. We need to do everything in our power to make sure that what we say and do in their presence will lead to the ideas that will serve them well in their adult lives.  That is how we protect our children!!

In closing, I want to say this to you.  If you or someone you love needs a little help to chisel away the clay so that the gold can shine then you don’t have to look very far.  There are amazing resources that are free to use that work wonders to cure the diseases growing in our subconscious minds.  There are endless amounts of guided meditations available on You Tube.  I love the ones from Kelly Howell.  She has different ones for different issues (i.e. Anxiety Relief, Creating Success, Overcoming Fear, etc.).  There are endless websites with positive affirmations available.  There are amazing and enlightened people sharing valuable insights through newsletters and blogs and books and movies and videos.  The list goes on and on.  I have mentioned many of the names before.  I recently “met” a person that has inspired me greatly and his name is Ryan Biddulph.  Google him and check out his RB’s keys, his blog and his cash gifting program (The People’s Program).  He is a person who believes in giving back and paying it forward and that is the kind of example we should all be following.

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  Thank you Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen for sharing the “Golden Buddha” story.  They published it in “Chicken Soup for the Soul” and have spoken about it  many times.  I first heard about it from Jack.

PPS  Imagine all the dreams coming true, imagine our children free from irrational fears, imagine them realizing their true passion and living it from a young age.  You may say I’m a dreamer……but I’m not the only one!!  John Lennon was one, too.  Hope you enjoy “Imagine”…….

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Managed Chaos

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I have a question.  How important is devout structure when rearing your children?  I’m sure the answers for this probably run the gamut; but, I expect the correct answer (at least for me) is that a loose framework is most desirable.  I mean, we do the normal structured activities like wake up around the same time each morning, have a little breakfast, dress ourselves, brush our teeth, pack our lunch and leave promptly by 8:40 to arrive at preschool no later than 9 AM.  I assure you we are on time at least 95% of the time.  I am nothing if not prompt.  Also, in harmony with the law of attraction, I always say I am always on time; therefore, I always manage to be on time even when I shouldn’t be.    Now, a caveat to that is social endeavors.  I may be a few minutes late to those and I will not apologize for that.  I simply won’t sweat it.  Back to the track…I pick up the munchkin at 1:00 PM daily.  I usually arrive at the school at about 12:50.  A little girl named Callie once asked me why I was the first parent to arrive for pickup and I simply said, “I just can’t wait to see my angel.”  That seemed to satisfy her immensely (& Laney, too).  Now, you and I both know that we Moms do enjoy our time away from our little angels but they don’t have to know that now, do they?  Okay, onward, here’s where the “loose” part begins.  Outside of Mondays when we have gymnastics at 5:10, we really have no other commitments during the week so you may find us at Chick-fil-a or Baskin Robbins or Target, perhaps.  These are definitely 3 of our favorite places to kill time,  play or get a “prize”.  We may go home and practice riding our new Barbie bike or we may sing along with some of our favorite artists who have so graciously donated their videos to You Tube.  We quite possibly could be found throwing Daddy’s boxer shorts at each other after collecting them out of the dryer.  I suppose to sum it up, we have a lot of silly little play time (not to be confused with Paul McCartney’s “Silly Little Love Songs”) every single day.  Perhaps, that is structured.  Break to Webster’s…one definition is “a complex construction or entity”.  Well perhaps I should have said routine, you know something we do with regularity.  Well, in that case, we have a very pleasing routine.  I think it has the perfect mix of structure and fluidity.  You know, it’s sort of like managed chaos and I am quite comfortable living there.  You know, I don’t know if you have ever read any studies related to birth order but they often say that the oldest or first born child is Type “A” and organized, blah..blah..blah and that the baby of the family is a bit scattered if you will.  Very loveable and even delightful but not the most organized.  This rings so true for me, because I was my mother’s first born.  She had me at 18.  Additionally, I was like the baby of the family to my Grandparents and little sister to my two aunts, Gloria (16) and Priscilla (11).  Furthermore, my lovely sister, Tiffany, wasn’t born until I was 8 (Now she is Type “A” all the way..more on that another day.)  That is why I believe I just may be the perfect blend of Type “A” and holy shit!!   In addition, I am completely loveable and delightful if I do say so myself.   It’s really a blessed thing to be if you can be it ( that A/holyshit blend, that is).  Thank you God for giving me this unique placement in our oh so lovely family.

I guess the moral of my story is this, do what the hell you want.  Schedule your day your way.  Whether rigid or fluid, love your children, play with them, be silly.  Allow them all your devotion and compassion and teach them that they can have whatever it is in life that they want.  No, I don’t mean materialistically speaking, necessarily, although I certainly intend to show Laney that she is entitled to the best in that regard as well.  I remember one day we went to Target and of course we found ourselves in the toy aisle and I never go to Target without preparing to buy something!  On this day she kept pointing to things that were above the price range that I intended for this outing.  I suppose I intended to spend around $10.  So, I kept saying over and over…”No, that is too expensive.”  Then she pointed to something in the $20 dollar range. I can’t remember what it was because it was perhaps 30 prizes ago and a few hundred dollars in the past but she said something that I will never forget.  “Mommy, is that too expensive for me?”  And I’m sure that you know what happened at this point…I bought it without hesitation.  I did not pass Go…I did not collect $200.  I want Laney to never think of herself as unworthy of anything.  I am also not raising her to believe that material things are all that matters.  I seem to be struggling with the summation of my point; but I think you get the gist…don’t you?  Another thing that I will never say to her is money is hard to come by or money is the root of all evil.  We will learn about budgets and whatnots when the time comes, for sure, but I simply will not instill these lies into her little subconscious mind.  They are not true, people.  Let’s do our children a favor and not tell them that they are.  Instead, let’s teach them that an abundant life is in the cards for them.  They probably will not have the benefit of social security and pensions to rely on in their future.  Frankly, they won’t need it.  This generation will be filled with entrepreneurs and renegades that change the face of the economy and the government and the world and that is so exciting to me.  But they won’t be prepared if we don’t prepare ourselves to teach them and show them the way.  Oh well, I don’t know what else to say so I must sing…oh, and join me, will you?

 

You’d think that people would have enough of silly love songs

But I look around me and I see it isn’t so…Oh no

Some people want to fill the world with silly love songs

And what’s wrong with that?

I’d like to know…cause here I go….again

I love you….I love you…

I love you…. I love you

I can’t explain the feelings plain to me, say can’t you see?

Ah, she gave me more, she gave it all to me

Now can’t you see

And what’s wrong with that

I need to know, cause here I go again.

I love you, I love you

Love doesn’t come in a minute

Sometimes it doesn’t come at all

I only know that when I’m in it

It isn’t silly..It isn’t silly

It isn’t silly at aaaaallllllllll

I love you….I love you

 

Those, my friends, are the lovely lyrics written by Paul McCartney and his beloved late wife Linda and performed by “Wings”.  Do you know “Wings”?  You really should!!

Much love!!

Lori

PS:  Why is it that I know the lyrics to literally thousands of amazing songs and I can’t remember to put the towels in the dryer?  I suppose I’ll never know…just happy to know the lyrics………….

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