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Peace For No Reason

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When there is light in the soul there will be beauty in the person..

When there is beauty in the person there will harmony in the house

When there is harmony in the house there will be order in the nation

When there is order in the nation there will be peace in the world.


I recently heard this ancient Chinese proverb from  Marci Shimoff.  Marci has collaborated with Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen on 6 “Chicken Soup for the Soul” books and she is the best- selling author of “Happy for No Reason”.

You know, in my own life I have spent far too much time worrying about things that were external.  Things that I neither had nor wanted control over.  Can you relate?

So, when I read this some time ago, I started a little “soul” searching.  I started taking out all those little demons that were responsible for the discontent I have felt from time to time.  The evil little things that prevented the light in my soul to shine at its brightest.  I made a conscious effort to rid myself of any grudges, dislikes, judgments, etc.  But, it is not a one-time shot, you know?

It is like a beautiful garden.  No matter how much care you take in planting those colorful flowers, succulent fruits, or yummy veggies, you have to come along periodically and remove the weeds.  So, instead of burying my weeds deep down in my own soul, I have started pulling them out OFTEN!!  My friends…. the weeds will destroy your garden if you let them take over.  Don’t let that happen!!

Within you is the brightest light.  You were created with the most indomitable spirit and magnificent mind.  You are the only reason for any achievements or failures in your life.  Imagine if just an additional 10% of the world’s population would take control of their own strength within.  Just imagine the light, the beauty, the harmony, the order and the peace that would result from that small increase.  What will you do right now to make the light in your soul shine brighter knowing that the ultimate result of our collective efforts will bring more peace to the world?

Tell me about it….

Much Love!!


PS:   Whatever you are holding on to or whatever you are bitching about that is on the outside of YOU (i.e. you have no control over), LET IT GO!!  As Hale Dwoskin (The Sedona Method) says: “Could you let it go?  Would you let it go?  WHEN?”  I think the answer to that question is NOW!!

PPS:  I know I have used this song before; but, it is perfect for this occasion!!


Look… Listen…Judge NOT

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In life, I have always been a curious observer.  I am fascinated by listening to people talk about their life, opinions, problems and  achievements.  Oftentimes, we get so bogged down in the little things that our ego holds on to…scorekeeping, appearance, what others think, what others do, what they drive, what they have, what they don’t have.  Then, we turn around and we judge people for any number of ridiculous things.  But, somewhere on that path to enlightenment you realize that the person you are really judging is yourself.  And, the projection onto others is just a little game of diversion that our little ego plays.  But, as we know, the  answer is never out there…is it?

No, if we listen closely and allow our heart to hear it, God talks to us.  When we are having a negative emotion or harsh thought toward someone or something, we get that pain deep in our gut.  When we are coming from a place of compassion, understanding and love we feel elated.  That emotion is THE most important driver and if we open that door to receive these messages, we become the happiest, healthiest, most abundant version of ourselves.

I have carried the heavy cross of judgment in my life.  Frankly, the recipient of my harshest judgment (mostly undeserved) has always been  myself.  And, I can tell you from experience that when you lay that burden down, something completely magical occurs.  Aaaahhhh….bliss!  And, while I still kind of judge certain horrible things that people do, I tell myself that the judgment lies only in God’s hands (and maybe in a court of law) and I let it go.  That is one of the reasons I stopped watching the news and reading newspapers.  No one and nothing is served by me devoting even one iota of energy towards the gloom and doom.  Something kind of cool happens, too, when you consistently wear your rose colored glasses.  You see more good in the world.  More people make eye contact with you and smile at you.  Strangers say hello when walking by.  That emission of good vibes attracts the good in people, and the good people.  Most importantly, if magnifies the good in yourself.

I often think about a news organization that reports only good news.  I like to call it “The Good News Times”.  I would love it if you would contribute a good news story today.  It doesn’t have to be earth shattering.  World Peace or ending hunger or whatever isn’t necessary for this forum, just a simple story of someone doing something nice with no expectation of external reciprocation. Will you do it?  Pretty please!!

I’ll go first…a very special person named Jamie is making great strides to set up a foundation in honor of my cousin Brandice.  It is called the “Brandice Dawson Dupree” foundation and it will benefit cutting edge research for brain cancer treatment.  Jamie is working with an attorney, a CPA, and a web designer to get the ball rolling.  And, she works full time, has a husband and a beautiful toddler daughter.  Most importantly, she was friends with Brandice from birth.  She is the best friend anyone could ever have and because of her efforts, someday a life will be saved from this dreadful disease that remains a death sentence.  Somewhere a husband, a mother, a sister, a brother, a grandmother, a grandfather, an aunt, an uncle, a cousin or a dear friend will get to spend another day with someone who survived.  I wish this had not come at such a high price; but again…a silver lining, albeit a little tarnished.

Much Love!!


PS:  Just so you know, your intelligence is NOT measured by your knowledge of current events!!  I have to tell myself that from time to time!

PPS:  Winter, Spring, Summer or Fall….all you’ve got to do is call….and I’ll be there….You’ve got a friend!

The Gift of Life

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My husband says I dwell on things too much.  He is right..I do; but, only on the things that are closest to my heart.  Last week on September 9th, I celebrated Brandice’s birthday.  I am sure all of heaven celebrated with her.  I spent the last 2 weeks of her life with her..all day every day.  I deluded myself into believing that if I forced more vitamins and medication on her that a miracle would happen.  And it did…she was blessed with a pain free and peaceful passing surrounded by all the people who loved her.

The other day I was sitting out on my deck and it was a beautiful breezy morning.  The most interesting thing happened…a hummingbird came within about 12 inches from my face.  He stared at me and flapped his wings treading air for about 45 seconds and then he flew away, seemingly effortless.  Call me crazy, but that touched me so deeply.  It was as if he was saying, “It’s okay!”  And in that moment, I knew it was.

Then, I started thinking about those last days with Brandice and what a gift that was.  You know, she knew for a while ( I think) that the end was near.  But, in her loving and generous way, she knew that we needed to fight.  She knew we needed to remain hopeful so she kept up the façade…for us.  All that vile tasting crap that I made her ingest, she never complained.  She lovingly let me hold on to her for a little longer…long enough to realize that I never had to let go.  Have you ever received such a beautiful gift?  Here’s hoping that your answer is yes!

One last thing, I want to share an experience that I think many of us had with Brandice in her last days.  She always loved for me to tickle her back and arms and head.  One day I was scratching her head and she grabbed my hand and she interlaced her beautiful graceful fingers  (She has the prettiest hands.) in mine and squeezed really hard.  We sat there hand in hand for several minutes.  Two brown eyed girls looking at each other and talking without words… telling each other how much we loved each other and how much our relationship meant.  I will always treasure that moment.  I can still feel her fragile little hand in mine and I will hold on to that feeling for the rest of my life.

Thank you all for indulging me on this…it is so cathartic for me to write about this experience.  As much as I wanted her to live and as much as I still want her back; I treasure those last days so much.  What classic novel was it that started with, “It was the best of times, it was the worst of time…” (Was it “The Grapes of Wrath”?)  Anyway, it doesn’t matter but it really sums it up.

Much Love!!


PS:  It’s okay to dwell on the meaningful things in your life.  Just make sure that out of every cloud you come across you find that silver matter what!!  I guess if I have one specialty it is that…finding silver linings.  I am so thankful for that gift!

 If I Die Young…The Band Perry