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Over the course of the upcoming weeks I am going to do a little restructuring here at close2bliss.  Don’t worry, I am still going to share stories with you; but I am going to systemize a couple of things too.  I want to help you learn some of the techniques I have learned that have changed my life…for the better.

I remember the pivotal moment in my life.  It was the fall of 2005 and it was the first time I was introduced to the audio tapes of “The Secret”.  On a 4 hour road trip to the beach, my husband and I listened to the 4 disc series.  I simply cannot put into words the revelation that came over me.  I know you might find this hard to believe, but I had never heard any of this before.  It truly was a secret to me.

The most important concept that I started to implement in my life was the “accountability factor”.  I realized at that moment that everything (good and bad) that had happened in my life was MY responsibility.  Now I don’t mean that I caused all of the hardships that I had; or that you caused yours.  However, many of our struggles, if we are truly honest with ourselves, were self imposed.  And, the   power we give to those things is our choice!  It is not debatable and you know it.  Besides, if you are blaming other people or situations, how’s that working for you?  Don’t bother replying…I know the answer already!

So, here’s what…I want you to try a little game I play called…SO WHAT!!  Take out a sheet of paper and write down all the things that have happened to you in your life.  I’ll give you a random example:

  • My parents didn’t get along
  • My parent was an alcoholic
  • My parents abused/neglected me
  • Joe Blow broke my heart
  • My sister peed in my corn flakes
  • My brother made me sit in an ant bed
  • My dog died when I was 7
  • I failed the 3rd grade
  • We were poor
  • We were rich
  • blah…blah…blah

Then I want you to take each one of these issues and think about how it affects you NOW!  Talk out loud…wait until you’re alone in the house or in the car or wherever.  Then in all caps and huge letters write across the list…SO WHAT!!!  Then take the paper and shred it or burn it or toss it in the garbage pail.  If you live near the ocean, put it in a bottle and throw it out to sea.  It doesn’t have to control you now.  If you let it, you have no one to blame but yourself.  Everyone has a story to tell.  Some of the stories are sad.  But these chapters in YOUR book existED…past tense.  You can’t rewrite history.  But, you can turn the page and write a new chapter.  That is what happy, healthy, wealthy and wise people do, they move on.  You can too!!

Now, tomorrow I am going to recap American Idol.  After that, though, I am going to delve a little deeper into the law of attraction and how to use it in your life.  I don’t care if you don’t believe it now… you will.  You see it is also not debatable, it is a law just like gravity and the sooner you embrace it and leverage it, the better your life will be and that is what I want for you!!  Leave me a comment below and let me know what you think and what you need.

Much Love!!


PS  I realize that some of you reading this may have some really serious scars from your past.  The “so what” exercise may not be enough to really heal those; so, seek counseling or hypnosis or whatever works for you to let it go.  Here in this space, we are going to focus our energy on today and your future.  Whatever work you need to do to reconcile your past…DO IT so that you can focus on making your life what you want it to be, okay?  Not for me…do it for yourself.

Enjoy the music…So What


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10 responses »

  1. Jackie Paulson 1966

    I like your LOA, law of attraction article. I am a huge fan! I wish you luck and love what you have done here. I love all of those authors you love, Jack, Joe, John, Bob, Bob, All of them. The Secret is my favorite book to reflect on, I believe in it and have written on it in my articles on
    Love it all, good luck, Jackie

    • Jackie, thank you! I really was overwhelmed when I first heard “The Secret”. Is it crazy that I had never heard any of that before? Had you? I suppose I was always a positive person; but always with a limited belief system…do you relate? I’ll stop by today to “see” you.

  2. Of all your posts I have read so far, I like this one the best. Thank you, Lori!

    And Jackie, I will check out your blog as soon as I finish this note.

    I invite you to have a look at my blog as well.

    If you like what you see there, I would like to establish reciprocal links…however that is accomplished.

    Kindest regards,

    • Thank you David. I have to say I love your post…just went over and read it.

    • Jackie Paulson Author

      Lori and David, I will check out all of the sites and blogs…. lori I am a huge fan of LOA. I have been doing vision boards for years, on posters, and in notebooks, of all sizes and binders. I guess I will have to post about them soon. Thanks for the reminder. It works if you work it and change your thoughts. It’s not easy b/c of my 44 years old menopausal issues.

      • Hey Jackie!! I just want the kids and youth of today to grow up knowing this stuff; because I certainly didn’t. They need the information!!!!

  3. Yet another bored housewife spewing lofty piffle! The stench must be overwhelming in your neighborhood child. These are not original thoughts you have but mere left-overs warmed up in the microwave. The four disk, four hour excursion to dip that limited intellect into the shallow end of a knowledge pool of self-help audio books should be left up to the more worthy blogosphere bits and bytes.


    • (British accent engaged) Hello Bub, Laura here….just wanted to shout out to thank you for your lovely comments. And, much to our delight (Lori & myself) we discovered that you have set up your own blog where you have copied my post entitled “So What”. It’s truly brilliant. Perhaps you will add some original content on your site. My information is far from original…the roots of LOA teachings go back way too far for that. Hermes Trigmegistus wrote about it in “The Divine Pymander”. Lao Tzu discussed it in “Tao Te Ching”. Zen Buddhism is based on these teachings & it was continued in the works of Wallace Wattles, Napolean Hill, and Charles Haanel. I simply wasn’t born then, you silly boy!! Anyway, thank you again…and Lori thanks you too!!

      Furthermore, there is but one source of originality…you might say God, or the universe or if you happen to be an atheist …you might say Mother Nature. At any rate, original I am not. I will settle for enlightened!!

  4. You got great points there, that’s why I always love checking out your blog.

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