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To Bub With Love

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Well, I must say I am utterly thrilled today.  For the first time since I started this blog, I received a flaming comment.  Sort of a yin to my yang, if you will.  To add to my delight, when I jumped over to the wordpress blog of the infamous bubbeelzebub (He says we should just call him Bub) I noticed that he has but one post and it is mine.  It is a post entitled “So What”.  He really didn’t steal the content, he copied and pasted it with all the related comments, etc. and gave the proper credit to me as the writer of the original post.  Here’s what Bub said…

“Yet another bored housewife spewing lofty piffle! The stench must be overwhelming in your neighborhood child. These are not original thoughts you have but mere left-overs warmed up in the microwave. The four disk, four hour excursion to dip that limited intellect into the shallow end of a knowledge pool of self-help audio books should be left up to the more worthy blogosphere bits and bytes.

ZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ”

(FYI  The definition of piffle is nonsense & there really is no stench in my neighborhood…)

Laura responded to the comment on my behalf in her lovely British accent, of course; and here’s what she said:

“(British accent engaged) Hello Bub, Laura here….just wanted to shout out to thank you for your lovely comments. And, much to our delight (Lori & myself) we discovered that you have set up your own blog where you have copied my post entitled “So What”. It’s truly brilliant. Perhaps you will add some original content on your site. My information is far from original…the roots of LOA teachings go back way too far for that. Hermes Trigmegistus wrote about it in “The Divine Pymander”. Lao Tzu discussed it in “Tao Te Ching”. Zen Buddhism is based on these teachings & it was continued in the works of Wallace Wattles, Napolean Hill, and Charles Haanel. I simply wasn’t born then, you silly boy!! Anyway, thank you again…and Lori thanks you too!!

Furthermore, there is but one source of originality…you might say God, or the universe or if you happen to be an atheist …you might say Mother Nature. At any rate, original I am not. I will settle for enlightened!!”

To take this a step further, I must say that at first glance I was rather offended at the words of Bub.  I mean bored…limited intellect..left overs…the nerve!!  I even went as far as to contact WordPress to report the stolen content.  I emailed Bub to remove the content from his blog and replace it with his own words.  To date, he has not responded; but, I will keep you posted.

But after a bit of reflection, I realized that the universe has sent me a gift.  And, now that I am a public figure ;), I will simply have to understand the polarizing effect that can have on a person.  I have stood up and told you that I am an expert in this field; and I’ll simply have to strap on my big girl knickers and accept the responsibility that comes along with this.  Don’t you think?

So, in all not so seriousness, this is fun engaging in a bit of controversy.  I really would love to know what you think about this little incident.  You have all been so kind (well, except for you, Bub) and some of you are oh so quiet…I urge you to speak your mind.  Whatever you say will be welcome.  Truthfully speaking, the voices in my own head are much louder than any of yours anyway…..

All games aside, time to get back to boring housewifery….

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  On a more serious note, someone very close to me is battling cancer and I hope you will put forth your most positive thoughts and prayers for her speedy recovery.  Her name is Brandice and she is my beloved cousin.  She is in her early thirties and I know she will beat this to live a long and blissful life.  Your positive thoughts and prayers will only help to speed up her certain recovery.  I truly thank you!!

PPS  For all of you out there who may be fighting a fight of any kind (health or perhaps the erroneous words of idiots like Bub or maybe even the voices inside your own head)….enjoy You Are Beautiful

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The Law of Attraction

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I have a question for you.  Do you know what would happen to you if you stood on top of the Brooklyn Bridge and stepped off?  Of course, you do…you would get very, very wet.  You would fall squarely into the East River, right?  Why?  Because of gravity.  Basically, the law of gravity says that what goes up must come down.  And you don’t question it at all, do you?  I mean you don’t go around jumping off of high buildings or bridges or anything like that…do you?  Of course there are those of you renegades that jump out of airplanes or bungee jump or whatever.  I have to say, I will never understand the desire to do that; however, even you fools know what is going to happen.  You are coming back down to earth…hopefully with a fully functioning parachute or unbreakable bungee cord.  Yikes.

So…if you have no problem believing in the law of gravity, you should have an equally easy time believing in the law of attraction.  What the law of attraction, in its simplest form, means is that like attracts like.  When you focus on things (good or bad) you attract more of the same into your life.  Have you ever heard people say, “When it rains, it pours.”?  Well, there you have it.  Conversely, have you ever observed people that just seemed to do no wrong…they were on a roll as they say.  Again, the law of attraction in action.

Going forward, I am going to assume you get it.  I will not debate you on the issue any further; I just want to get right to it.  Whatever you focus your thoughts and most importantly your feelings on is what you will attract into your life.  Now, it is not going to fall into your lap effortlessly…I don’t think ;).  What will happen is you will start to get little nudges or inspirations.  These inspirations will lead you to the path of the outcome that you desire…every time!!  You think it.  You imagine how it feels to have it already.  You become charged like a magnet to it.  You act on the impulses that you receive and Voila!!  That’s how it works.

Now, you have to start today consciously controlling your mind and your thoughts.  I know it might sound exhausting; but I promise you it will become second nature to you.  Any time you have an errant thought that is not in alignment with your desired outcome, shift your thinking.  Suppose you find yourself worrying about paying the mortgage…stop…breathe…think about how cool it feels to own the house outright…no mortgage.

Okay, here’s the first thing to do.  Write down the way your life will be when you achieve your greatest dreams.  Write it in present tense.  As Bob Proctor said in “The Secret” start with the words, “I am so happy and grateful, now that…”  You need only be clear about the outcome.  Write in detail how much money you will have, what kind of house you will live in, what kind of car you will drive, what kind of philanthropic interests you will contribute to, etc.  Then, every morning and every night read it aloud to yourself.  Don’t worry about being silly…it’s not!  Then close your eyes and imagine the feeling of the achievement of what it is you want.  Understand that you do not have to justify any of it to anyone.  Your dream is what YOU want.  And mark my words, every time you open your eyes after this visualization/meditation process, you will have an idea.  Act on it.  You may be inspired to write something or call someone or whatever, but do it.  It is the universe showing you how to achieve what you just said you wanted.  So, in the wonderfully wise words of Nike…Just do it!!

You know one of the most amazing examples of this law is The Wright Brothers.  These two guys believed that you could fly a heavy plane in the air using a motor and it would take you anywhere you wanted to go.   They built models, gliders and prototypes out the wazoo and guess what…they made it happen when few believed it was even possible.  Now, we fly all over creation….effortlessly.  Hell, we propel rockets into space.  All of this started with just a little seed of an idea.  Thoughts become things!!

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  The visionaries that talk about the Law of Attraction talk a lot about your vibration.  In other words how you attract things based on your internal feelings.  Try this exercise.  Next time you have to go to the market or Target or wherever, go in feeling closed off (anxious or unhappy or worried) and observe how the people react to you.  You will find they will not make eye contact with you.  They seem to be almost repelled by you.  Then imagine something that makes you feel happy…really happy.  Then smile and enjoy the moment as you walk through the store and what you will find is that people will be drawn to you.  They will smile at you and say hello.  Make eye contact with as many people as you pass all the while feeling that inner light and you will understand how this vibrational energy works.  Your internal emotions and feelings send out a vibration and that vibration attracts like people or situations.  What you focus on and feel the strongest about is what the universe thinks you want more of and it will give it to you.  Unfortunately, we often focus on the lack or the worry or the practical urgencies of life.  I do it too; but, I am changing and we can do this together!

Blood Sweat and Tears Spinning Wheel

Idol Worship…It’s Getting Better & Better

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Was anybody else distracted by that flaming red lipstick on Steven Tyler’s face last night?  I just wanted to reach through the television screen and wipe it off.  For those of you that don’t know me, I don’t like lipstick…much to my Mother’s dismay.  I think it feels sticky and gooey on my lips and I don’t wear it…anymore.   Sure, back in my “vanity” heyday (the 80’s) I wore it and plenty of makeup and of course enough hairspray to choke a chicken; but several years back I gave it up.  Occasionally, in honor of my Mom and my Grandmother I’ll slap some on.  Whenever I do, my MaMa says, “Oh, you decided to wear make-up today.”  You’ve gotta love her!!

Okay, enough with the rambling.  Let’s get down to some serious Idol business, shall we?  I have to say I am having a harder and harder time choosing this year.  I don’t know if I am trapped inside some idealistic, hearts and flowers alternate universe; but these guys are consistently sounding great to me!!  Do you agree?  If you don’t, please don’t burst my bubble!

Anyway, at the risk of being repetitive ( again) I truly got goosebumps when Jacob sang “Dance with My Father Again”.  I think it probably had something to do with the poignant moment between Jacob and Jimmy Iovine when they discussed losing their fathers at a young age.   Boy is that Jimmy warm and fuzzy, or what (haha)?  I also have to give Jake props for keeping it together…did you notice the little hiccup in the beginning?  Don’t know if you agree; but I loved the performance and I love him.

I was totally awed by Casey’s performance last night.  I don’t know about you; but, I was very surprised by his voice last night.  He didn’t growl as much and I love the growl; but, I didn’t miss it.   He is one versatile dude.  The song he chose (Maroon 5 “Harder To Breathe”) sounded like it was written for him.  In my opinion, and here my opinion is the only one that matters…he wins the “Original Naturability” award hands down.  I mean he really has it all…talent, versatility, swagger, confidence……just blessed.  I love him!!  He is definitely the most unlikely sex symbol; yet, he is!!

And, you are not going to be surprised to hear my pick for Best Performance…….James Durbin.  I think I want to give him a nickname.  What about Durby?  I like it!  When he came out in that get up last night with the marching band, I was hooked.  He had me at hello…so to speak.  Those pants did remind me of the ones the Nazi army wore, though; but he pulled it off!  Then when he hit those falsettos in the chorus of that song…you know the part where he sang “They will not force us…..”.  Not many people can pull that off and hold it.  Amazing!!!!  Do you think a “metal” singer can win?  Hmmm…not sure; but I am hoping!!  (Are you starting to see what I mean about him sounding like Axl Rose from Guns ‘N Roses?)

I’m actually a little afraid to talk too much about Durby because I fear I may have cursed Pia and Paul.  I mean all along I predicted that Pia would win…she got voted off.  Then on the very week that I picked Paul as my favorite…he got voted off.  Here’s hoping it was a coincidence.  Looking at that word right now (coincidence) and it looks funny; but, spellcheck says it’s right so I’m leaving it.  Anyway, Idol lovers, isn’t the season flying by?  I’m already getting sad about the inevitable end.  And, why don’t they do more than one season a year?  Oh well, you know Simon’s “X Factor” is right around the corner.  Guess I’ll have to give it a shot.  Thanks for stopping by and please leave me a comment in the box below because I want to know your picks….promise me you will!!

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  I want to sincerely thank all of you for coming back!!  To date I have had over 7000 views on this site and I am just beginning this amazing journey that is going to lead me to great things and I am so happy to have you on the ride with me.  Don’t leave, because you know that I can use somebody…someone like you.

So What!!

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Over the course of the upcoming weeks I am going to do a little restructuring here at close2bliss.  Don’t worry, I am still going to share stories with you; but I am going to systemize a couple of things too.  I want to help you learn some of the techniques I have learned that have changed my life…for the better.

I remember the pivotal moment in my life.  It was the fall of 2005 and it was the first time I was introduced to the audio tapes of “The Secret”.  On a 4 hour road trip to the beach, my husband and I listened to the 4 disc series.  I simply cannot put into words the revelation that came over me.  I know you might find this hard to believe, but I had never heard any of this before.  It truly was a secret to me.

The most important concept that I started to implement in my life was the “accountability factor”.  I realized at that moment that everything (good and bad) that had happened in my life was MY responsibility.  Now I don’t mean that I caused all of the hardships that I had; or that you caused yours.  However, many of our struggles, if we are truly honest with ourselves, were self imposed.  And, the   power we give to those things is our choice!  It is not debatable and you know it.  Besides, if you are blaming other people or situations, how’s that working for you?  Don’t bother replying…I know the answer already!

So, here’s what…I want you to try a little game I play called…SO WHAT!!  Take out a sheet of paper and write down all the things that have happened to you in your life.  I’ll give you a random example:

  • My parents didn’t get along
  • My parent was an alcoholic
  • My parents abused/neglected me
  • Joe Blow broke my heart
  • My sister peed in my corn flakes
  • My brother made me sit in an ant bed
  • My dog died when I was 7
  • I failed the 3rd grade
  • We were poor
  • We were rich
  • blah…blah…blah

Then I want you to take each one of these issues and think about how it affects you NOW!  Talk out loud…wait until you’re alone in the house or in the car or wherever.  Then in all caps and huge letters write across the list…SO WHAT!!!  Then take the paper and shred it or burn it or toss it in the garbage pail.  If you live near the ocean, put it in a bottle and throw it out to sea.  It doesn’t have to control you now.  If you let it, you have no one to blame but yourself.  Everyone has a story to tell.  Some of the stories are sad.  But these chapters in YOUR book existED…past tense.  You can’t rewrite history.  But, you can turn the page and write a new chapter.  That is what happy, healthy, wealthy and wise people do, they move on.  You can too!!

Now, tomorrow I am going to recap American Idol.  After that, though, I am going to delve a little deeper into the law of attraction and how to use it in your life.  I don’t care if you don’t believe it now… you will.  You see it is also not debatable, it is a law just like gravity and the sooner you embrace it and leverage it, the better your life will be and that is what I want for you!!  Leave me a comment below and let me know what you think and what you need.

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  I realize that some of you reading this may have some really serious scars from your past.  The “so what” exercise may not be enough to really heal those; so, seek counseling or hypnosis or whatever works for you to let it go.  Here in this space, we are going to focus our energy on today and your future.  Whatever work you need to do to reconcile your past…DO IT so that you can focus on making your life what you want it to be, okay?  Not for me…do it for yourself.

Enjoy the music…So What

Idol Worship…So Long Paul!!

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Watching Idol last night was bittersweet for me.  I miss Pia!  Word has it, though, that Interscope records is already gearing up to work with her.  At this point, nothing has been confirmed; but, I suspect Jimmy Iovine will grab this shooting star while he can.  Wouldn’t it be cool if she had a single released while the Idol season was still running?  I know I am hoping for it.

I have to say I am a little torn on my picks today.  Here’s why….Lauren sang one of Laney’s absolute favorites…The Climb (Miley Cyrus).  As Randy would say, she slayed it!!  I love the song too.  I think the message is beyond inspiring.  Another thing I love about her is her emotion.  At any given moment, she looks like she could burst into tears and you can really hear that in her voice.  I’m sitting here listening to it back on YouTube and I can feel it!!  I think the way she phrased the chorus and the slight adjustment to the arrangement was brilliant!!!  She definitely gets my “Goosebump Award”.  Decisions, decisions…..

Now, Casey Abrams came sporting some huge cojones last night.  Jimmy nearly fell asleep watching him rehearse the song.  Will.i.am looked like he just smelled something really rank (Do you think Jimmy farted at that precise moment?).  I, in my own infinite musical wisdom, was also a little more than TERRIFIED about his song choice.  Guess what, we were wrong!!  I hate to admit this, and please don’t think badly of me for doing so; but, (engage whisper) I didn’t know the song :(.   I do now….and I love it!!  He is the hands down “Original Naturability” Award winner!!  Did you see the standing O?

Now, I am in a great pickle.  (Dill..I don’t like the sweet kind.)  Do I choose Laney’s aforementioned favorite?  No, I think I will just leave her with the GB…and honorable mention.

I  totally adored Paul last night.  Is it just me or does he remind you of a cross between Mick Jagger and Joe Cocker?  I don’t know what he is, but it makes me a whole lotta happy to watch him.  He has so much fun performing .   And I strongly believe Crest will be naming him as the next spokesperson for their White Strips.  Warning though, he has some fierce competition with my Dad and my sister.  They are teeth whitening addicts!!  Do you think they have a 12 step program for that?  Maybe I should ask Charlie Sheen..haha!  Anyway, Paul wins my vote for favorite performance.

Cut to Friday….I am afraid I have been caught up in the tyranny of the urgent this week…sorry.  Don’t leave me now, I promise to continue my frequent posting in the upcoming weeks.  But now, I am doubly sad :(.   Paul got voted off.  I will so miss his enthusiasm and uniqueness.  Oh, and those embroidered suits….do you think it would be appropriate for me to get one for my husband?  He is an Investment Advisor.  Let me know your thoughts on that and also enclose some links or suggestions about where to purchase one.  I (& Ed, of course) greatly appreciate it!!  Well, I must go for now; but, please visit often and don’t be shy…Speak Up!!

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  Filing an extension on the video thing….it is coming very soon!!  You simply must check in daily or you might miss it!!   Click here  to hear my favorite song choice from Wednesday.

Soulshine…It’s Better Than Sunshine

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Twenty one years ago, two old friends were sitting across from each other having breakfast.  Both guys were key note speakers who had met on the “circuit” of speaking engagements.  I am going to refer to them as John and Mike.  Mike asked John what was going on and he said that he was working on a book.

[John was inspired by a recent attendee at a speech he delivered to a group of educators.  One of the audience members came up after the speech and asked about one of the stories he told.  She said she would really love to share that story with someone and wondered if it were published in a book somewhere.  John told her that it was just a story he had heard and used frequently in his motivational speeches.  On the plane flying home that day, John started writing down the anecdotes that he shared with his audiences and when he was done; he had amassed 68 stories.]

Mike loved the idea and told John that he wanted to co-author the book.  John was taken aback.  He was like, why would I let you join me in this when I have almost completed the book.  Mike retorted that the reason was because John had stolen most of those stories from him.  He also said he had a lot more that he had not shared yet.  John thought about it and told Mike that if he would write 32 stories to add to the 68 already penned stories he would agree to the joint venture.  Mike did exactly that.

John and Mike set out to sell the book.  They pounded the publisher pavement for a solid year.  They were rejected by over  120 publishers (I have heard two accounts 123 and 144 turn downs…not sure which is accurate).  Their agent gave up and said it couldn’t be sold.  Do you think J & M gave up?  No way!!  They took it to a bookseller’s convention in Anaheim, CA.  At the convention, they visited nearly 4000 (yes, thousand) booths.  Finally, a small publisher out of Florida said the magic word….YES!!

One year after this fateful meeting, the book hit the shelves in July 1993.  John and Mike asked the publishing exec what his projections were.  The exec thought they would be lucky to sell 20,000 books.  When J & M told him that they expected to sell 150,000 copies by Christmas ’93 (6 months time) and 1.5 million books by Christmas ’94 the exec laughed in their faces…out loud!!

By Christmas of that year they had sold 135,000 copies.  In a year and a half, they had sold 1.3 million copies & the book made the New York Times Bestseller List (September ’94).  The publisher continued to laugh…..all the way to the bank!!

The books did not fly off the shelves magically.  John & Mike promoted the hell out of them.  They committed to doing 5 actions every day to sell the books.  They gave away free signed copies, spoke at church events, wrote letters to magazine publishers.  The list goes on and on.  You see, a psychic told J & M that if you took 5 swings every.single.day at a tree, no matter how large, at some point….that tree WOULD  fall.  Boy did that ‘rule of 5’s’ pay off for John and MIke.

The first book went on to sell 8 1/2 million copies in the US; and, 10 million copies around the world.  Have you guessed it yet?  Does a little title called “Chicken Soup for the Soul” ring any bells?  Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hansen have gone on to write 200 titles in the series (w/some very esteemed co-writers, I might add).  It turned into a BILLION dollar brand.  100 million books (& counting) sold in 54 languages!!  All because they had an idea that they believed in; and they never gave up.  Through their tenacity an entirely new “literary genre” was created.  Oh, and they made the Guinness Book of World Records for having the most titles on the NY Times Bestseller List.  Powerful stuff, wouldn’t you agree?

Much Love!!

Lori

PS  I love this song…It’s called “Soulshine” by The Allmann Brothers Band.  I have personally seen them in concert several times and they are amazing!!

Soulshine

 

Unanswered Prayers

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Someone close to me got her heart broken recently.  She is a beautiful and amazing person whose diapers I have changed and laughter I have shared.  I am not going to say her name because she would disown me.  This story is in her honor……….

I got my heart broken once.  An incredible person who I will refer to as JT (to protect the innocent, of course) broke up with me after many years together.  I know you might find it difficult to believe that anyone could leave such a delightfully funny, charming, and modest person; but, he did it.  And, it was one of the best experiences of my life; even though at the time I felt devastated.  I hid it well.  I went on with my life, had a lot of fun, had a lot of success, had a couple of subsequent failed relationships.  You get the idea.  I suppose I even carried this fantasy of a reconciliation around for longer than I care to admit.  I knew deep down inside that I would emerge a stronger person and I did!!  You see heartbreaks are blessings in disguise.  Not only do they empower us greatly; they lead us to new roads where we actually find the relationship that we have always wanted.  It lead me to the love of my life, my dear husband Ed.  I can’t remember what it felt like not to love him.  I can’t imagine my life without him.  He is the best person I know!  He’s like a big warm hug when you need it the most.   I am truly grateful for him and his three beautiful children (from a previous marriage) and our little blessing, Laney.  I am grateful to have received two wonderful in-laws, two extraordinary sisters, and many sweet pet-in-laws to boot.

But, there is something else.  I am grateful for what has happened to JT, as well.  Recently, a mutual friend told me about JT’s wife and their children.  He has become a father to three beautiful girls who tragically lost their father at very young ages.  He died suddenly in a terrible car accident.  JT married their mother a few years back (not sure when) and gave them a new father.  They were also blessed with two new Grandparents who love and appreciate them.  I know they will always miss their dad.  They will certainly always wish he could come back.   I also highly suspect that  they are extremely grateful for their “new” Dad.  It’s a tough story…my eyes are welling up with tears just writing about it.  And, there are many details I don’t know about the situation because it has been several years since I have spoken with JT; but the story touched me and I wanted to share it.  I hope if you are going through a loss or a heartbreak that it will give you a little boost.  Doors close so that new ones can be opened.

Please when you are thanking God today, don’t forget to thank him for the Unanswered Prayers.  Now, without further adieu, I’ll turn it over to Garth Brooks…….

Much love!!

Lori

PS  Bittersweet is just a stop on the road to…just sweet!!

Unanswered Prayers